The Kathmandu I grew up in and the Kathmandu of today feel like two different cities.
Every time I return, a part of me mourns the place I left behind, and another part celebrates what it has become. Kathmandu is no longer just the city of its native dwellers. It has become home to Nepalis from far and wide. It has grown, expanded, and embraced everyone.
They say the only constant in the world is change. Kathmandu has embraced that change and in many ways, moved on without me. Sometimes that bruises my ego. But the truth is, I left too. I left because I wanted to see the world.
Do I love my current city, Charlotte, North Carolina, as much as I love Kathmandu? I think I do. Though Charlotte could certainly improve its weather to rival Kathmandu’s. When it comes to clean air, however, Charlotte stands out without question.
Still, I am a true Newar, born and raised in the heart of Kathmandu, in Tyauda, Ason to be specific. The narrow lanes of Ason Bazaar, the opulent Durbar Square, the intricate architecture and deep rooted culture, no other city compares when it comes to cultural heritage. I grew up in what felt like a living museum, surrounded by centuries of history at every turn.
And then I found myself in one of the coldest states in the US. For the first time, I understood what it meant not to belong. In that distance, Kathmandu became even dearer to me. Since then, I’ve made my way to the southern part of the US.
Charlotte, in the southern United States, has its own charm. North Carolina offers everything, mountains, rolling hills, and something Kathmandu does not have: breathtaking beaches. Which one wins? Kathmandu or Charlotte? It’s impossible to choose.
One is my janmabhumi — the land of my birth.
The other is my karmabhumi — the land of my work and growth.
Both cities have shaped me.
Both cities hold my heart.
But I have to admit, at the end of the day, I will always choose Kathmandu. It’s where I was born, where I can always return and where my heart first learned to belong.
Below is a glimpse of my recent trip to Kathmandu.















